I am a happy marriage but are pro business, they make you feminist and not a whore, read and you will agree

Let’s be honest about a double standard that has existed since biblical times.

A good wife is a loyal wife – that has been told us all. This expectation was collided with women by religious sermons, cultural messenger and social pressure for centuries.

I play Piazza at Tribeca Film Festival. — Jo Piazza says there is nothing wrong with women who cheat their wives for the right reasonsCredit: Getty

The family that poses in front of an arch. — Jo is a three -year -old mum and is happy married to her husband NickCredit: Collect

But when men deceive? Is brushed as a Midlife crisis Or a situation of “boys and be boys.”

Think about how male infidelity is depicted in our culture. A guy tells his friends to sleep with someone VegasAnd he barely raises an eyebrow.

But when a woman does the same, it’s a scandal. This difference is not accidental – it is a direct result of patriarchal control over female sexuality.

Women who choose to have things make a bold statement: I reject these unequal expectations. They say that my sexuality belongs to me, not at the expectations of society.

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A few years ago as a happy -married mum pregnant With the third child I started to report a podcast on infidelity.

When I started interviewing women for “She wants more”, I will admit that I was skeptical.

As a journalist, I was trained to question everything and entered these conversations with my own judgments about infidelity.

Like many of us, we internalized the narrative that the deception was wrong, especially for women and more for mothers.

But after dozens of intimate conversations with women who have come out of their marriages, we have come to a conclusion that could shock you: business can be a feminist care.

We live in an age when the body autonomy of women is under direct attack.

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REVERSAL Roe v. Wade in US It wasn’t just about abortion rights– It was about who made decisions about women’s bodies.

Many women I have interviewed and explicitly admitted to this feeling of wanting control over individuals.

This feeling is particularly acute for mothers, who have described a profound feeling of bodily alienation after having children.

While a woman said to me: “After a family started, my body didn’t belong to me. He has always been someone else – my husband, my children. ”

Between the growing babies, lactationAnd the constant physical requirements of care, these women considered that they lost their property on their bodies.

pandemic It only intensified this feeling, families trapped in close quarters, the borders that dissolve and the women who support even more internal responsibilities.

For many, having an adventure has become a way to create physical space that belonged to them only -a radical act of recovery of property in a world that constantly tries to control the female bodies.

One of our first interviews was with Nikki, a woman who has been married for 15 years and felt completely drained by her relationship.

JO Piazza at the Tribca Festival in 2023. — Jo says for women who have an adventure can be an act of self -careCredit: Getty

Podcast Cover Art: "She wants more" with Jo Piazza. — Jo interviewed a lot of women who had things on her podcast, she wants more

Like many women, she performed all the emotional work in her marriage – managing feelings, maintaining connections and keeping her relationship on the line, while her husband remained emotionally checked.

This imbalance is exhausting and kills the desire. As I discovered through my interviews, it is not that women want less sex than men – this is a myth.

But we often hang out much more that we drain us completely. In addition to our own work, we do almost all emotional and physical work in a household.

We have no less desire, we are simply exhausted.

We literally have an entire episode in our podcast called “Does it have an adventure The New Goop?” – And the women I interviewed made a convincing case.

If anything else works, but no sex, why would you explode your whole life?

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While the wellness industry is trying to sell women everything, from jade eggs that you put in the vagina to lymphatic drainage massages, these women found that having an adventure is what made them feel better.

Every woman I talked to I reported that I felt more confident after I had an adventure – not only in their sexual life, but in every aspect of their lives.

They behaved better at work. They were more assertive at meetings. They shone.

And here’s the part that really surprised me: most women told me that their tasks have improved marriages.

They became more confident in the bedroom with their husbands. They knew how to ask what they wanted. They felt desired again.

Four red flags your partner cheats

Private investigator Aaron Bond from Bondrees revealed four warning signs, your partner could cheat.

Are starting to take their phone everywhere with them

In close relationships, it is normal to know our passwords and use your phone calls, if their phone habits change, then they can hide something.

Aaron He says, “If your partner begins to change his passwords, he begins to take his phone everywhere with them, even around the house or become defensive when you ask to use their phone, it could be a sign that they are not faithful.”

“You should also look at how they place their phone when not used. If they face the phone with the screen facing down then it could hide something.”

Are starting to tell you less about their day

When the partners cheat, they can start avoiding you, this might be from them to feel guilty or because it is easier to lie to you.

“If you feel that your partner has suddenly started avoiding you and they don’t want to do things with you or they won’t tell you about their day, then this is another red flag.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day, because deception can be difficult, the memory of all your lies is impossible and it is an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

The libido of your partner can change for a series of reasons, so it may not be a safe sign of deception, but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.

Aaron says: “Scammers often have less sex at home, because you cheat, but on occasions, they can have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their deception. You could also find out that your partner will begin to introduce new things in your sex life, which were no longer there. “

Become negative toward you

The scams know that the deception is wrong for them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety itself, which they will have to justify.

“To get rid of the tension I feel inside, they will try to convince you that you are the problem and will become critical of you anywhere. Maybe you have not walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book before bedtime. A little problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you have a big deal.”

Even the women who were just thinking about having an adventure, can create a profile on Ashley Madison, but not to pass with anything physical, they reported to feel more alive and more confident.

I have a close friend who currently explores a sexual relationship outside his marriage and has never been happier. Her career is prosperous, her marriage seems better.

She shines like Gwyneth Paltrow.

One of the most common reactions to infidelity discussions is: “If you are unhappy, you just have to divorce.” But this simplistic advice ignores the reality of modern marriage.

The truth is that many women like their husbands quite a lot.

Their marriages work well as a partnership – raise children together, maintaining a house, building financial security and supporting the other’s goals.

If anything else works, but no sex, why would you explode your whole life?

For many women, the fact that an adventure allows them to respond to the needs of passion and connection without dismantling the family structures that are otherwise beneficial.

Why so many marriages fail to meet the needs of women for desire and connection?

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I do not suggest that businesses are without consequences or that dishonesty is generally a good thing.

But I say we have to look beyond simplistic moral judgments to understand why women choose this way.

Maybe, instead of condemning these women, we should ask more heavy questions: why do so many marriages do not meet the needs of women for desire and connection?

Why do women fulfill disproportionate amounts of emotional work? Why do we keep women at standards of sexual fidelity that we easily excuse men?

The women I interviewed are not harmful.

The human being tries to find happiness and fulfillment in a world that often refuses women.

Their stories cause us to re -imagine relationships beyond patriarchal constraints and to consider that sometimes, taking care of you means violating the rules that have never been conceived for your benefit first.

I was asked many days these days if I want to have an adventure after all my reporting about them.

In fact, no, but again I am married to a man who does a lot of internal tasks and does not exhaust me. Most women are not.

Wishing more is not a sin – it could only be the most honest expression of what it means to be fully human.

You can listen to Jo’s podcast, she wants more Here.